heyrev Junior Member Joined: Aug 24, 2017 Messages: 1,458 Likes Received: 1,478 Nov 11, 2019 #21 You two guys have it exactly right. I coached/taught HS kids for many years. In general, they have little capacity to handle adversity--another way to describe real life. The social system in which they grow up is designed to avoid/deflect problem solving. Parents absorb their challenges by defending them, excusing them, and advocating for them. Their schools protect them from failure. It's never their fault, and we call that "safety." Responsibility is simply the "ability to respond" but they aren't forced to make choices, good or bad. How are they supposed to cope with stress when they have no experience doing so? They move from pressure to despair quickly with little ability to learn what the process of adversity can teach them. I used to tell parents: "Let them fail--it's good for them." Result? They'd report me to the AD. PickSicx likes this.