Letting go is sometimes the best move TrojanDrive Junior Member Joined: Aug 24, 2017 Messages: 607 Likes Received: 808 Dec 5, 2019 #1 I'm not trying to be philosophical so I apologize in advance if this post evolves to that. I was reflecting last night on this whole USC football debacle. Why is it that I was glued to this message board for the last one week awaiting the outcome of the Helton saga? The short answer in my mind was I care about USC football which I've followed for 24 years. That's a long time yet it also pales in comparison to many others on this board who have supported USC football far longer. I guess in a way it was the feeling of being a part of something. Being connected to USC. Maybe that's why yesterday was so tough. About 6 months ago, a good friend of mine said to me that we have to let go of things we have no control over. It doesn't mean you fully agree with what happened. It means you move forward with what you can control. Then adopt a "What's next?" attitude. His advice has helped me multiple times since then even though it is so simple that one would think I would already know this. I did already know it but sometimes we have to be reminded. After Bohn's announcement yesterday, I realize we really had no control over the outcome in the end. Many of us hoped we did collectively as a fan base but that proved to be untrue. We can't control what Folt and Bohn do as their motivations are only known at the highest levels at the BOT level. The only thing we can control is our own actions. I will never wish ill on USC football team. I will always root for them to win as well as root for the players. But getting back to what I can control. I can control how much energy I devote to USC football as well as control how much money I spend supporting USC donations wise, game tickets, and merchandise. So, after my evening of reflecting, I woke up today with a much more emotion free perspective. I have decided to invest less mind space to USC football because I believe that makes sense for me. I've decided to not spend any money on USC for the foreseeable future but only because that is one thing I can control if I disagree with what has happened. I've moved on to "What's Next?" I will figure that out. Maybe more tennis, more international travel, and whatever else that presents itself. It's healthier to let go than to pine for something that isn't happening. This is just my personal process I thought I would share because I know there are others hurting today. I've chosen to let it go because I have no control over what happened. I'm in no way espousing this as what others should do. Everyone will have their own way how they go about things. Some have resorted to chastising others as acting as "5 year olds" for not getting their way. That poster(s) seems to have missed the point that people's reactions are not whining and entitlement. People are disappointed because they care about USC football yet the university made a decision that sends the message they don't care about the fans. That stings... As to all my brothers out there that care about USC football, just remember we really had no control over this outcome. So give yourselves a break. Maybe let go a little. Focus on what you can control. "What's next?" ........... Last edited: Dec 5, 2019 travyav, TMBDave, SC4SC and 8 others like this.